A Happy Ending
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Hi, my name is Cheryl. I visited (Adoption.com) and many other adoption sites many times a couple of years ago in search of my biological mother. I had had a happy childhood with my adoptive family but just had the yearning to know my mother. I searched for approximately 17 years on and off. As fate would have it, a cousin found a letter I had posted on a site and put two and two together and figured I was her uncle's daughter.
To make a long story short, I had a wonderful reunion with both sides of the family, which is an adoptee's dream. Although they both had their own families, they both longed to know where I was.
My adoptive family were very happy for me. Shortly after, I lost my adoptive mother, which was very traumatic for me. Now as fate would have it, I may lose my biological mother who's cancer has returned for the 4th time, and it does not look good.
What is so ironic to me is that the last year I searched, before I was found, I was constantly on the computer searching, afraid that once I found my biological mother, she would no longer be alive. I now know my mother who is such a beautiful person, and I know most those things adoptees wonder about. In addition, I know to remain very vigilant in my health care screenings. I now know that instead of having a negative medical history like I was told by the agency with the non-identifying information I was given, I have found I have colon cancer, diabetes, breast cancer and hypertension on both sides of my parents' families. This is why I am an advocate for adoptees' records being completely opened when they are 21. This way, valuable information like this is passed along.
For those adoptees still searching, keep searching and utilize the vast free resources available to assist you. I spent lots of money doing my, search and the site that actually assisted me in being found was free.
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