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Hi, my name is Colette Latour. I'm looking for my brother given to adoption when he was two in Toronto. I've been looking for the past 40 years. I don't know if my brother knows he's adopted. I have non-identifying information, that's all. I found my sister who was adopted; it was easier, because she knew she was adopted and went to social services and seeing we were on the list, everything went very well.
I have a another brother who the courts gave to my mother along with me. He has cancer and is now in remission for 5 years. He is in depression not knowing when we will find our brother Serge. He was ecstatic when we met with Joy, our sister. I've never seen my brother so overjoyed.He cried for soo long. He couldn't believe my sister was actually there. The courts should give information and let the children who are of adult age advance and decide if they do want to make contact. There is no reason to worry that they will leave their foster parents, not at the age they have when they are close to 50.
My sister adores her adoptive parents, and that's great. My mother knows that she will never be called mother, but that there can be a special relationship between them and that too is great. People like to make problems where there is none to be made.
Social services say we have to understand the hard times they have had, well I'm saying we do, but we have had hard times too knowing they exist and we have spent our lives being the victims too. It's not fair. All the children pay for the adults' errors. It shouldn't be.
I've always asked why this decision was made. My father placed us, and my mother was given custody of the two eldest children; why take the two youngest away? Because we were 4 young children; come on, is that a good reason?
There were families of 10 and more, and they made it. I can understand if the children were beaten or were not loved. This was not the case. Anyway I hope one day that the laws will change, and I pray the Lord to help me find my brother so that we can be reunited before it's too late.
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