Christmas Eve marked a hundred days since my son contacted me for the first time. I had a baked treat decorated with icing "100 days Mother and Son." After we blew out the candles his 7-year-old daughter sang a song she created just for us. It was a heartfelt gift. We'd spent hundreds of hours communicating through nearly every means known to mankind. Our love grew from cautious to connected--post haste. I was overjoyed to feel my maternal instincts pumping like an Olympian's heartbeat at the winning moment. I finally became a mother and a grandmother, all at the same time!
Preparations for our first Christmas as a new family included the purchase of a Christmas tree. As we began to set it up and dig through a box of lights and ornaments I presented the family with a gift. I'd purchased an ornament featuring stockings hanging on a mantel side by side. I had it customized with our names and the year. It was the first ornament put on the Christmas tree and future family ornaments will also be first on the tree. We also sent out our first family photograph including my husband (not b-dad) and future daughter-in-law (a bonus child).
For some card recipients, the card, photo and note would also serve as a reunion announcement. I expect the inclusion of a family photo with the Christmas card to become an annual tradition. Both families are very excited about our reunion. My son was an only child and his adoptive father was an only child. His adoptive mother had only one much older brother and he was a priest! I had no other children. I have nine siblings (eight married), twenty eight nieces and nephews (his cousins) and eighteen great nieces and nephews! Yes, it was shock and awe for my son. He's tickled that he resembles many of them.
Surely we will develop more traditions for birthdays and holidays and most of all the date of our happy reunion.
- Connie G.
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